Saturday, 4 August 2012
Best Friends Forever- Really?
I remember when I always wanted a best friend like what I saw other people had. But now I realize that the title of best friend is sacred. You cant call people that if they dont act like it. Also, I now realize that some friendships are very one sided, unbalanced and that people with many friends are those who people can get something from. For example, they have many friends because people like the way that person listens to their problems all the time, or how that person makes them laugh all the time or maybe how that person gives them ideas. So never be jealous of someone with many friends because most times they are only with that person because they are gaining something from the friendship and if they never got anything from the friendship- they probably would not check for that person anyway. So I am now at the point in my life where I want balanced friendships, the ones where they check for me as much as I check for them. Otherwise adios!
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So true...I'm having some friend issues at the moment...I don't know what to do..I prayed about it though do I'm leaving it on God's hands...I think when you exert your energy stings can sometimes be botched up or more confusion arises...but if you leave contentious or complicated situations to the Lord, the best result always comes from it; whether it be separate from the individual, reach out to them or whatever God leads you to do...I'm not loving this process though
ReplyDeleteAnshan, I feel where you are coming from. For a long time I have held onto friendships that were dead and the only person trying to pump life into it. One of the things I struggled with was thinking maybe I am not worthy of people wanting to be around me, but now I know that is not true. I am worthy, we deserve to be treated with value because what we have to say matters and who we are as a person is just as significant as any other person out there. So, if people dont appreciate our kindness, truthfulness, individuality, authenticity and awesomeness well too bad too sad. lol
DeleteThis is so true! There was a time when I thought that all of my friends especially my best friend at the time was a true trooper. Boy was I wrong! It took me 11 years to realize that she was the one pushing the knife deeper into my back. I no longer take the word "friend" lightly. Yet in all, I thank God because he knew what he was doing. I sum all of that up to experience.
ReplyDeleteEesh I love your blog, you share honest and very interesting things on it- feels like you are just being real. Thanks for joining - you are my first follower- hooray! I am glad you did realize that the person really wasnt worthy of being called your bff. I think all of this teaches us to recognize a good friend when we see one. Take care.
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